I know nobody asked me to do this but i want to understand if these are reasons to make fun of someone.
1. My english: you could probally tell that english is my second language and i make many dumb mistakes and my friend makes fun of me for it without telling me the mistake i made. Many times i say wrong things and sometimes we tell jokes in english but i write some mistakes and, instead of telling me what's wrong with the thing i said, he says "kleo (and old friend of mine) was right. You can't speak english!". I hate when he say this.
2. The fact that i feel lonely even because "i have many friends": One time i told him i felt lonely and that i don't have any friends and he made fun of me for the thing i sad because "it's not true" and as examples for the people that talks to me, he used my 8th grade bully and a girl that wanted to hangout with me just because she was bored. I felt so embarassed and i even deleted the messanges he wrote me.
3. the dumb things i say: I say many dumb things (i can't make examples😭) and, Instead of making me understand what i said wrong, he just makes fun of me calling me a fucking idiot and a dumbass, and this happens almost everytime we call eachother (infact when he calls me i don't answer or i just make excuses).
Please, tell me if these are reasons to make fun of somebody.
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Sunn
Things like these are more so something that depends on how both parties feel. If he was making these as jokes and you both were okay with it, and both knew that they were just for laughs, it'd be different. But if he is "joking" in a way that hurts your feelings or makes you feel less confident or more dumb, that is something that should be talked about. If you haven't already, you should tell him how his jokes aren't funny to you. If he listens and stops, good! but if he continues to make jokes that are hurtful and make you feel upset, then that is not good. Boundaries are very important in all relationships, and sometimes people don't deliberately try to hurt someone and they don't see anything wrong with what they say. That doesn't mean that its a good thing to say, though. What matters is how you feel and if he changes his ways after knowing his jokes are hurtful. Also, I wanna let you know that its completely valid to feel lonely even if you have friends. And that you are definitely not dumb, everyone has different thought processes and that's completely okay!