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FriendRewind Etiquette for New Users (:

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Hi new people!! 👋 If you are used to newer platforms, joining a non-algorithmic social media site can come with a learning curve. 


Before sending someone a friend request, please read their profile. People often explain who they want to connect with, what communities they are looking for, and what kinds of interactions they are comfortable with. Sending a request without reading any of that can make it seem like you are adding people randomly or have bad intentions.


It is also best not to send someone a friend request and immediately message them. When there has been no interaction first, it can feel overly familiar and may make people think you are soliciting something, ragebaiting, bullying, or trying to cause trouble.


The usual etiquette is to interact with people through bulletins, forums, blogs, or profile comments before moving into private messages. That gives people a chance to recognize you and get a sense of who you are.


People also tend to use each feature a little differently:

- Bulletins are for daily updates, videos, questions, jokes, and casual posts.

- Blogs are usually for longer thoughts, stories, art, tutorials, reviews, or more personal writing.

- Statuses are for sharing what you are feeling or doing in the moment. Some people also use them as a permanent message on their profile.


These are not strict rules, just common communication norms that make it easier to connect with people respectfully. 🥰  (but to each their own)

And, like good citizens, folks will read and interpret this 🥰 

@Cranky Old Witch here's hoping lol

@Kayla⟡ did you get some instant PMs today? 

Lol, I recall in the authentic myspace days they were usually from a real person promoting their music or art and the entirety of the PM read "s4s?" 😅

@Cranky Old Witch i did get quite a few lol yes. I'm a little sick of it. Oh my gosh yes, i forgot the song for song thing 😂  makes me think about when people who just send ASL? lol

@Kayla⟡ oh, I knew it as "Share for share?" to help promote each other's profiles! Was ubiquitous! 

And wow ... "ASL" 

I'd answer right away unless I happened to be AFK 😅

@Cranky Old Witch oh no you're right lol it is share for share. >>> ROTFLMAO  🤪 G2G

Personally, I add/get added by those who I've interacted with in the Forums and/or blogs and think they're pretty cool and would like to see their blogs/forum posts/bulletins in my feed at the home page. I don't use DMs here at all 😅


...or just keep randomly browsing blogs and/or forums and interact that way. 😅


Randomly adding and then sliding straight into messages just sounds rude, I get enough random adds on Discord already...

@Cordell you get it! i'm the same way, i rarely instant message anyone

i fear i have dmed some people right away after they friend me. usually only if they seem really cool or we have similar interests 😭😭

i feel like i can tell if someone didnt read my profile before sending me a friend request, esp if we dont have ANY similar interests 💔 im not gonna friend someone with zero similar interests 

@savvluvsllamas__ totally these aren't hard and fast rules but something for people as a whole to just be aware of. but yes totally agree 💕

@savvluvsllamas__ hopefully you start off with something to say right out of the gate.

99% if DMs are "hi"

If I do engage, they are usually filled with endless strings of "wyd?" etc.

Also, maybe 75% of those are scammers. Often art scammers. Another 20% are creepers. The remaining 5% might be innocent, awkward people.

I DO get very nice DMs from people I know, who've interacted with me in some way, who genuinely have something to say or to ask! 

I'm totally okay with people dming me as soon as they add me, because I am the type of person who gets a little nervous writing out comments all the time. Im just socially awkward. Maybe I should make a web graphic for if it's okay to dm after adding vs not okay to dm after adding. But still people should read people's bios first! I highly agree with that. 

But what bothers me is don't use this as a platform to get follows and friends on other networking sites. I've gotten so many "add me on discord" dms, or people trying to get me to commission art pieces from them 😤 

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@Vodkuh in both instances those are usually scammers. If you were to venture a guess - roughly - what percentage are art scammers and discord scammers vs actual people? 

@Cranky Old Witch so far 3 art/discord dmers and 4 nice people 🙂 I just suck at replying to dms. 

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@Cranky Old Witch but omg wait story time hahaha  I got the two art people in 1 day, so the next person who came in I was so short with them, and I ended up feeling bad and apologizing saying I felt bad that I was being rude to them and explained the situation and they were like oh its okay I promise I won't sell you art. Then disappeared off the face if the earth. Hahaha I felt so bad hahahaha 

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@Vodkuh odds on favorite that they were also an art scammer. 😅 

You say you're not good at comments (I disagree, btw, you're fine! 😊) and no good at replying to DMs. Dang. I think you've got to work on it a bit!

Still think you're fine just as you are, though!


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