the reason queer relationships (espeically gay/mlm ones) are seen as "inappropriate" or "sexual" is how they are portrayed in the media. i feel wlw relationships are severly underrepresented and usually end up as a p0rn thing instead of in the professinal media. with the mlm ones, the most popular/well known examples in this day and age (atleast what i think are) are heated rivalry, brokeback mountain, and heartstopper. there defenitly are more, these are the ones i know off the top of my head.
first, heated rivalry.
i love heated rivalry, i think its great. but it seems like a fetishization of gay relationships by a straight women, marketed towards other straight women. im a bisexual woman, so not much better, but i feel it is slightly a fetishized show. especially with the ways the book are written, atleast from what i've heard.
second, brokeback mountain.
i've never watched brokeback, but i know that its a beautiful movie, and defenitily one of the better ones made. although it isn't nearly as sexual as heated rivalry, it can still be used as an argument of how queer relationships are "wrong". it's 2 closeted men cheating on their wives, which i have no problem with knowing the context of the movie and what ends up happening. i do have a problem with cheating but not in the context of this movie, although it is still wrong.
third, heartstopper.
heartstopper is my favorite out of these 3, but i do feel like a major plot point of season 3 is charlie not being aloud to have sex with his boyfriend. maybe im not woke enough but i feel like its not helping the case of "all queer relationships are sexual"
i could totally be wrong though! i know there are a lot of great representations, and the emotional part of all three of these shows are AMAZING, especially heated rivalry, i think rachel did a great part on that. i'm not a writer, and i don't have a lot of media literacy, so feel free to critize my comment.
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